Mean kids aren’t just a high-school problem. The trouble has trickled to the youngest grades. As a parent you need to learn how to spot it and how to protect your child.
Here are possible warnings that a child may be bullied and needs your support. Of course, these signs could indicate other problems, but any of these warrant looking into further.
- Unexplained physical marks, cuts, bruises and scrapes
- Unexplained loss of toys, school supplies, clothing, lunches, or money
- Clothes, toys, books, electronic items are damaged or missing or child reports mysteriously “losing” possessions
- Doesn’t want to go to school or other activities with peers
- Afraid of riding the school bus
- Afraid to be left alone: wants you there at dismissal, suddenly clingy
- Suddenly sullen, withdrawn, evasive; remarks about feeling lonely
- Marked change in typical behavior or personality
- Appears sad, moody, angry or depressed and that mood lasts with no known cause
- Physical complaints; headaches, stomachaches and finds excuses to avoid going to school
Here’s how you deal with it:
- Watch your child’s reactions. Often what a child doesn’t say may be more telling. Tune into your child’s body language. Silence is often powerful.
- Keep an eye on your child. Children who are embarrassed or humiliated about being bullied are unlikely to discuss it with their parents or teachers.
- Stress that you are always there for your child and ensure he/she feels safe talking to you.
- Emphasize that you believe your child no matter what the situation is.
- Get in touch with your child’s teachers and keep them in the loop, so that they have an eye on your little one.
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