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Many children — especially pre-teen and teen boys and girls — are interested in porn. You might not like the idea that some kids are looking at these images and videos, but that doesn’t change the fact that it’s a pretty common occurrence. No parent wants to think about their child watching pornography, unfortunately it happens. With easy access to internet and what they watch on TV and films, the age of exposure is becoming younger and younger.

So if a parent catches their child watching porn, what do they do?

A parent’s reaction could shape their child’s view of sex, and the most important step is to approach the situation in a way that will leave the door open to a conversation.

1. Pace your reaction
First, recognize that there’s nothing new about teens looking at such things. At times, you need to realize that a growing teen will be curious about the human body, his and the opposite sex’s. Instead of accusing your child and flying into rage, sit down with your child and discuss what prompted them to watch it.

2. Talk about porn and sexuality
Take a deep breath and spend some time thinking about the situation before you do anything. Don’t overreact. How you respond to the situation can have more of an effect on your child than you know. Flying into a rage will make your child think he has done something shameful and wrong and can affect the way he relates to his/her body.

3. Discuss the nature of porn
Talking about how the men and women have been portrayed in porn movies will provide your child the insight of what is real and what is make-belief. Also, this talk will give him the perspective of how women have been treated and how disrespectful it is.

4. Consequences and punishment
When talking with your child, consider bringing up some of the consequences of surfing the web on these sites. Your child’s inappropriate behaviour needs to be addressed, but do not dish severe punishment.

If you have trouble talking about it with your child, you can always involve a counselor or a therapist to have an open conversation with your child regarding sex.

You can also look at the video below of Ms Gayathri Srinath, Counselor, DPS South, who talks about tackling the dicey issue of Sex Education.

 

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