Is failure an opportunity to learn and grow or is it just a roadblock in the way to success? The way you answer this question will also influence your child’s perception of failure, and the way they approach a challenge. Failure is inevitable in life. It is impossible for everyone to be the best at everything. Yet, we are faced with a generation of kids who can’t handle losing and failure.
There are bound to be setbacks in life, so how do ensure children cope well with failure?
The funny side
When your child make mistakes, try to respond with positivity or humor. Talk to your child about what they can learn from the mistakes, and if they are willing to pick themselves up and try again. When your child struggles, try not to show worry or anxiety. What will encourage them is if you respond to failure by focussing on the funny side of an incident. Laughter will go a long way in brightening your kid’s attitude towards the mistake and pep them up.
Commend their effort
Don’t pity or comfort kids for “not having enough ability”, when they fall short in an exam or a race. Demonstrate that performance is not about ability. It’s about effort, practice, learning strategies, determination, etc. This doesn’t mean you should simply tell your child to “Try harder,” when they struggle. But you can discuss specific strategies that might work next time.
Focus on solution
Discuss what actions they took, the consequences of these actions, and how these consequences can be avoided in the future. Ask questions like “What went wrong? How can you fix or prevent this next time?”
Wondering how your child fares on the skills shared in this article? On the Mai app, you can assess these skills, along with getting daily activities which your child can do to improve each of these skills.