“Consideration for others is the basis of a good life, a good society.”
“Aunty!! She is not letting me play with her hula-hoop! She is not sharing it with me!” Is this a statement you here very often? Like any parent, you would tell your child to share his/her toys, but you are then bombarded with another set of complaints: “Mumma, She never involves me in the games with her friends”. Now, what do you do? How do you get your child to value the relationships around them?
A study conducted in several leading schools showed that only 37% of children aged 6-10 years know and understand that relationships can be conserved while performing any task. This means that the rest of them still cannot differentiate between right and wrong, and face trouble building relationships.
Kids who are near or almost 7 years of age become better at cooperating and understand the concept of conserving relationship only through experience, which involves observing their peers and adults around them first and then inculcating it within themselves.
What if my child doesn’t cooperate with others?
As per the statistics, 63 % of children who disagrees to cooperate in any of the tasks may –
- Become deficient at tasks
- May not be able to accept failure
- Isolate themselves from the rest of the world
- Have poor self-confidence
- Feel insecure and think nobody loves or cares for them
- Become pessimistic
Contrary to this, kids who cooperate with others will grow up to be successful personalities with a great sense of self-worth, self-confidence and self-esteem, who value relationships and the people around them.