“Have you brushed your teeth?” – “Yes!” “Have you finished your homework?” – “Yes!” But more often than not, they haven’t done either of these things. And then it hits you, “My child is learning to lie!”.
Worry not, because we have a few effective tips on how you can handle this:
Be a Role Model –
“Monkey see, monkey do!”. Most children learn from what you do, rather than what you say you’ll do. Make sure that you set an example by being truthful and communicating to your child that honesty is the best policy.
Avoid Labels –
Don’t call your child a liar because this will only make them more defensive. Instead, tell them that you love them despite what they’ve done and there’s still time to correct a mistake that’s been made.
Reward Honesty –
Telling a lie is an easy escape, so when your child tells the truth, appreciate and praise them. Tell them how proud you are that they chose to be brave and told you the truth. You can also occasionally give them a treat or a gift for telling the truth. But do make sure that his/her actions are led by morals and not rewards.
Don’t demand confessions –
Don’t question something when you already know the answer to it. Instead, tell them why you think what they’ve just done or said is not right and explain the right way to do it. Be honest and open with your child and let them know that you expect the same from them.
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