Opinionated children add color and vigor to every family. Their ideas are never-ending, their enthusiasm is infectious and they have the motivation and drive to accomplish anything they put their minds on. Such children have a natural tendency to become leaders of groups: while they take charge of many situations, they also tend to become stubborn. It is up to the parents to thread the fine balance between training and developing those tendencies in children.
According to a study that we conducted across various schools in Bangalore, we found that 87% of the parents said their children (aged 6-10 years) justified their stand on a topic, while working on a task. Such traits are important to developing your child’s personality as they shouldn’t be afraid to express their opinions and the logic behind a decision. Such children naturally take charge of group activities and tasks and tend to lead the group while playing.
Children who are opinionated:
- Usually require a good reason behind any task and are good at problem solving
- They tend to become natural leaders
- They are confident of themselves and are “popular” in class
- They delve deeper into the “why” and “why not” of every argument and task; this trait makes them extremely good at solving various problems
Issues with children who are opinionated need to be addressed well, so as to develop this trait in your child, but ensuring he/she doesn’t turn argumentative and stubborn.
When a child is stubborn, he/she finds it hard to adapt to different situations and the trick is to encourage the trait of being opinionated without being stubborn.
What can you do?
Here’s a parenting tip- ask your child to discuss a few examples with you and then discussing these scenarios in order to justify the reason behind his/her actions; you need your child to understand the “why” behind any action. This will develop the individualistic trait in your child, curbing his/her stubborn qualities. This will help your child use the trait of being opinionated to help and aid others, and not in procrastinating tasks.
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